Gonzales Regional Children's Advocacy Center
Gonzales and Lavaca
1604 St. Paul St., Gonzales, Tx 78629  Phone 830-672-1278
Children's Advocacy Centers of Texas
National Children's Alliance
A 501 (C) (3) Tax exempt organization
To restore the dignity, hope
and security to children of
Gonzales, Lavaca and
surrounding counties by uniting
public officials and our
Comments You May Hear From Others
About The Abuse
Remember, you don’t owe anyone an explanation.

“I’d rather not talk about it.” Is an acceptable response.  Or simply say “It’s been a very difficult time for us all.”  “I
appreciate your concern” is another response you might want to use.  Or it may be easier to just nod as an
acknowledgement of what someone says.

Keep in mind that most people have very little knowledge about sexual abuse.  For example, in response to the
comment about your child feeling guilty, you could say that children always feel unnecessary guilt in these cases
until they are assured that they are not responsible in any way for what happened.  

As a parent, you might also be experiencing some guilt, and as a result, you may feel defensive.  In that case, a
good response is “Parents do their best but we’re only human.”

Adults are the people most likely to say something to your child.  You may want to tell your child that if someone
says “I’m sorry about what happened to you” he/she should respond with a simple “Thank you.”  

Let your child know that he/she does not have to respond to any comments or questions.  He or she could say
“My mom and/or Dad told me not to talk about it now.”  

If other children comment or tease, your child might say “It could happen to anyone…including you.”

Reference:  When Your Child Has Been Molested, by Kathryn B Hagans & Joyce Case
“What exactly did he do to your child?”
“Are you sure your child didn’t make it up?”
“Why didn’t you know it was happening?”
“If it were my child, I’d just move away.”
“Your poor child must be feeling really guilty.”