Gonzales Regional Children's Advocacy Center
Serving
Gonzales and Lavaca
Counties
1604 St. Paul St., Gonzales, Tx 78629  Phone 830-672-1278
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Children's Advocacy Centers of Texas
National Children's Alliance
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OUR MISSION
To restore the dignity, hope
and security to children of
Gonzales, Lavaca and
surrounding counties by uniting
public officials and our
community.
The Effects of Domestic Violence
on Children
How many children witness the abuse of their mothers?
Studies show that 3-4 million children between the ages of 3-17 are at risk of exposure to domestic violence each
year. U.S. government statistics say that 95% of domestic violence cases involve women victims of male partners.
The children of these women often witness the domestic violence.

Witnessing can mean SEEING actual incidents of physical/and or sexual abuse. It can mean HEARING threats or
fighting noises from another room. Children may also OBSERVE the aftermath of physical abuse such as blood,
bruises, tears, torn clothing, and broken items. Finally children may be AWARE of the tension in the home such as
their mother’s fearfulness when the abuser’s car pulls into the driveway.

What are the feelings of children who are exposed to battering?
Children who are exposed to battering become fearful and anxious. They are always on guard, watching and
waiting for the next event to occur. They never know what will trigger the abuse, and therefore, they never feel
safe. They are always worried for themselves, their mother, and their siblings. They may feel worthless and
powerless.

Children who grow up with abuse are expected to keep the family secret, sometimes not even talking to each other
about the abuse. Children from abusive homes can look fine to the outside world, but inside they are in terrible
pain. Their families are chaotic and crazy. They may blame themselves for the abuse thinking if they had not done
or said a particular thing, the abuse would not have occurred. They may also become angry at their siblings or
their mother for triggering the abuse. They may feel rage, embarrassment, and humiliation.

Children of abuse feel isolated and vulnerable. They are starved for attention, affection and approval. Because
mom is struggling to survive, she is often not present for her children. Because dad is so consumed with
controlling everyone, he also is not present for his children. These children become physically, emotionally and
psychologically abandoned.

What behaviors do children who witness domestic violence exhibit?
The emotional responses of children who witness domestic violence may include fear, guilt, shame, sleep
disturbances, sadness, depression, and anger (at both the abuser for the violence and at the mother for being
unable to prevent the violence).

Physical responses may include stomachaches and/or headaches, bedwetting, and loss of ability to concentrate.
Some children may also experience physical or sexual abuse or neglect. Others may be injured while trying to
intervene on behalf of their mother or a sibling.

The behavioral responses of children who witness domestic violence may include acting out, withdrawal, or
anxiousness to please. The children may exhibit signs of anxiety and have a short attention span which may result
in poor school performance and attendance. They may experience developmental delays in speech, motor or
cognitive skills. They may also use violence to express themselves displaying increased aggression with peers or
mother. They can become self-injuring.

What are the long-term effects on children who witness domestic violence?
Whether or not children are physically abused, they often suffer emotional and psychological trauma from living in
homes where their fathers abuse their mothers. Children whose mothers are abused are denied the kind of home
life that fosters healthy development. Children who grow up observing their mothers being abused, especially by
their fathers, grow up with a role model of intimate relationships in which one person uses intimidation and violence
over the other person to get their way. Because children have a natural tendency to identify with strength, they
may ally themselves with the abuser and lose respect for their seemingly helpless mother. Abusers typically play
into this by putting the mother down in front of her children and telling them that their mother is “crazy” or “stupid”
and that they do not have to listen to her. Seeing their mothers treated with enormous disrespect, teaches children
that they can disrespect women the way their fathers do.

Most experts believe that children who are raised in abusive homes learn that violence is an effective way to
resolve conflicts and problems. They may replicate the violence they witnessed as children in their teen and adult
relationships and parenting experiences. Boys who witness their mothers’ abuse are more likely to batter their
female partners as adults than boys raised in nonviolent homes. For girls, adolescence may result in the belief that
threats and violence are the norm in relationships.

Children from violent homes have higher risks of alcohol/drug abuse, post-traumatic stress disorder, and juvenile
delinquency. Witnessing domestic violence is the single best predictor of juvenile delinquency and adult criminality.
It is also the number one reason children run away.