|Gonzales Regional Children's Advocacy Center
Gonzales and Lavaca
|1604 St. Paul St., Gonzales, Tx 78629 Phone 830-672-1278
|A 501 (C) (3) Tax exempt organization
To restore the dignity, hope
and security to children of
Gonzales, Lavaca and
surrounding counties by uniting
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When abuse is reported, parents sometimes feel as if they are on a roller coaster of emotions. This is normal.
The report can affect your life in many ways, and it takes time to adjust. Following are some of the common
thoughts and feelings parents have. You may feel one or more of these, or you may move from one to another.
1. Denial. Your first reaction may be to not believe or accept the possibility that it really happened. Or you may
believe it happened, but that no real harm was done. Parents often experience denial because it is too
overwhelming to accept that the abuse occurred and that there will be after-effects. For some people, it takes
time to overcome denial and face the realities of abuse.
2. Anger. At times, you may feel angry at yourself for not protecting the child. You may feel angry at the
perpetrator for what he did. You may even feel angry at the child. Be honest about your feelings and share them
with a trusted person or group.
3. Helplessness. You probably do not know what to expect and feel that things are out of your control. Some
parents may fear that their children will be taken away. Try to stay aware of how cases proceed through the
system in which you are involved.
4. Lack of assertiveness. You may feel invisible and think there is nothing you can do to help the situation get
better. We will help you learn what you can do to change the situation and take appropriate action.
5. Shock, numbness, repulsion. You may have memories of being abused as a child, which may lead to
shock, numbness and repulsion for the new situation you find yourself in. If so, you may need to seek therapy for
yourself to recover from the abuse.
6. Guilt, self-blame. You may feel it is all your fault. But the offender is responsible for the abuse, not you. The
best thing you can do now is support your child and learn all you can about how to make things better.
7. Hurt and betrayal. It is normal to feel hurt from the loss of your child’s innocence. You also may have lost a
spouse or partner if that person was the offender. You may even have lost friends and family. It is very important
to take time to grieve for those losses.
8. Concern about money. You may be worried about finances because of lost income. The Family Advocate
will assist you with filing for Crime Victims Compensation.
9. Fear of violence. In homes where violence is common, you may fear the offender will try to harm you or your
children. If so, express this concern to your Family Advocate or Law Enforcement.
10. Fear of drug or alcohol abuse. You may be afraid that you will abuse drugs or alcohol because of the
stress, or that you may have a relapse to an old addiction. If you need help, let the Family Advocate know.
|How Parents Sometimes Feel When Abuse Is Reported