Gonzales Regional Children's Advocacy Center
Gonzales and Lavaca
1604 St. Paul St., Gonzales, Tx 78629  Phone 830-672-1278
Children's Advocacy Centers of Texas
National Children's Alliance
A 501 (C) (3) Tax exempt organization
To restore the dignity, hope
and security to children of
Gonzales, Lavaca and
surrounding counties by uniting
public officials and our
What To Say To Others
One challenge your family will face will be what to say to others about the abuse.  Your child may feel
embarrassed and/or responsible.  IF there is no publicity or public awareness, you can decide whom you will tell.  
Let your child know with which relatives or friends you will be discussing it and let your child have some choice
about who is told.

Sometimes an extended family member is the first person to learn of the abuse.  You may feel hurt that someone
knew before you.  However, understand that your child may have been trying to protect your feelings by telling
someone else.  Your child may have felt that person could tell you in a less upsetting way than he or she could.

If you are especially close to your family, you will probably want to talk with them about your child’s abuse and
how it has affected the family.  It is important to keep in mind how these relatives usually react to stressful
situations.  Their reactions may include hysteria, horror, obvious distress, sincere concern, embarrassment,
disgust, disinterest or unnecessary question for intimate details.  If you know they will react in a negative way,
you may not want to share the information with them unless it becomes necessary.  

It is important to maintain your child’s sense of privacy.  On the other hand, be careful not to make it a dirty
secret, as this could cause more shame in your child.